After writing yesterday's blog post, I got the strange idea of writing about human nature. So what exactly is human nature? Well, there's
a whole article on Wikipedia all about it if you wanna read in depth. To put it simply, it puts thoughts, emotions, and actions (all distinguished characteristics) under the microscope; various/regional cultures have a big play in influencing this it as well.
Enough said. (And no "duh" statements here on this blog post!)
While on my missionary service in Japan after much re-exposure to the culture over there, these are but few principles I learned concerning human nature:
1.) People have the ability to make decisions.
A good friend of mine said something cool a couple weeks back:
"He is the architect of his own destiny, and so are you."
In our belief, we have a term for it called 'agency'. Like I wrote yesterday when it came to what we can choose to do when at the "legal ages", we're free to choose for ourselves; as you recall, I choose not to do so since I want remain in a state of good health.
Enough said yet, nobody's perfect and there are people who still choose to do wrong.
2.) People inherited laziness.
Hey, so did I and nobody can help it. It's a God-given principle; we have to work hard for the things we need the most. If this was on my religious blog, I'd be pulling scripture references but this blog is to remain on more neutral grounds so I don't offend anyone. But for the majority of us who are Christian, I'm pretty sure the ancient writings we read will say in certain places to not be judgemental and so on... But it's human nature for us to be annoyed with each other when someone is being "inherently lazy". So to combat that, we shouldn't judge others; that classic saying "You shouldn't judge a book by its cover" really applies here. We also certainly shouldn't condemn others as well. We should however be forgiving. If you're familiar with the 1989 comedy-drama film 'Dad', listen to the dialogue towards the end; you'll hear it.
Going off track for a moment, what do you suppose happens or what does it mean when you to do the opposite of what's written in the above paragraph? Well, if you do get judgemental, you're metaphorically kicking a beehive and you're gonna get stung. If you do condemn others one way or another, you're no being honest, sincere, or appreciative. If you're not the forgiving type, that just shows you've got selfish tunnel-vision, meaning you don't know the perspective of others and you don't want to know.
In a nutshell, don't kick the metphoric beehive and get stung, express honest, sincere appreciation, and widen your perspective to know what it's like to be in someone elses shoes and you'll turn out alright.
Even so, it's fine to harbor some ill-will towards some people. It's human nature to be so and sometimes that has to be the case because the type of people they are. Just be sure not to paint a whole group of people with a broad brush based on the personalities and characteristics of just a small percentage of them.
3.) People know what you're thinking.
Creepy eh? That fact that a lot of us can figure out what's going on based on body language or the emotions we express sums it all up. Whether you're happy, angry, or sad, we can read each other based on facial expression, intensity of one's breathing, or even the tone of one's voice.
4.) People hate listening.
Hey, so do I but don't you hate it when someone else is dominating a conversation? This would be a typical scene that plays out in the movies or an RPG video game but suppose you're just a bar tender making an honest wage while serving customers who make business, and some guy in a sorry emotional state just starts off by saying "I need someone to listen to my life-story...". You're thinking "Oh boy..." and you act like you're listening with the occassional "Uh-huh" or "Right..." but in reality your head is going "Blah blah blah blah blah". Know what I'm saying? How 'bout barbers or hair stylists? There's a saying about that and it says, "They really "care" about their customers" meaning they're willing to go great lengths to make small talk but are really just interested in just keeping their customers. Trust me, I know. I had this Brazilian chick give me a quality haircut at this really nice (and very reasonable!) hair salon and she said she was interested in learning English but never showed up to our classes!
(And she gave one hell of a scalp massage!)
Going back to my time recently spent in Japan, I did A LOT of listening when we WERE supposed to be teaching and sharing about what I believed in. Half my time was surely spent listening to peoples "life story" in one form or another usually in another language. And listening is part of learning a new language right? How ARE we gonna learn a language other than our native one when we aren't willing to listen?
It all comes down to how things are presented and whether or not if there's a purpose to any of this. If we're good students in school, we'll get good grades when we pay attention in class and actually study the things learned. If anyone is so interested in another country and the culture it presents and really wants to (and does) visit for himself/herself, one would be all that more motivated to buckle down and really learn the language.
No purpose? Then what's the point? Action doesn't come without consequence. But what do you think???